By Marc Jampole
These past few days, I’ve been feeling a special empathy
with the children whom the United States government ripped from their families
at the border and sent to special facilities. My empathy comes from knowing in
the most intimate way possible some of the emotional challenges that these
children will face throughout their lives.
You see, I’ve been having one of my occasional bouts of Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder (PTSD) caused by traumatic events I suffered during my
childhood. My PTSD manifests itself as sudden feelings of unexplained anxiety
or full-blown panic attacks in which I lose all control of my ability to focus,
have hot and cold flashes at the same time, feel as if I’m going to burst out
of my skin, and am unable to focus on anything. I’ll spend hours alternatively
pacing and trying to remain still long enough to get some work done or sleep. I
sometimes also experience sudden feelings of guilt, shame and anger, all
typical of survivors of war, natural disasters, epidemics, famine, family
suicide or childhood trauma.
My occasional symptoms are not the only manifestations of
PTSD that inflict sufferers. Far from it. Here are some worse ones: Substance
abuse, flashbacks, bad dreams, extreme depression, sleeplessness, loss of
memory, sudden bouts of aggression, an inability to form relationships and a
lack of trust in others, even loved ones. Everyone can experience these
problems from time to time, but when they last more than a month and someone
has been involved in a shooting war, raped, escaped a flood or lost their home,
it’s a safe bet that they have PTSD.
Experts like to estimate the percentage of people who have
had a specific trauma who end up suffering from PTSD, e.g. only (only!) 30% of
Vietnam War veterans will display PSTD symptoms during their lives. Overall,
the medical community believes that about 10% of the population will have PSTD,
with the occurrence more common in women. I think all the official percentages
of those experiencing traumatic conditions who end up with PSTD are low. Lots
of people just suffer in silence, or they present symptoms that are poorly
understood, e.g., the horde of men who came home from World War II and turned
into distant, unemotional fathers and focused their waking hours solely on
their careers and/or hid their fears and anxieties inside a bottle. As
significant as underreporting is under-diagnosis: society has a vested interest
in minimizing the psychic damage to those who fight wars; women who suffer
sexual abuse; and the poor, usually minorities, who face food insecurity or
have been moved out of their neighborhoods by urban planning or gentrification.
Whatever the unalloyed numbers are, only a fool or an
ideologue would deny that a large percentage of the children torn from their
families at border crossings will be scarred for life, unhappy, unable to
achieve their potential, prone to depression or substance abuse, perhaps always
feeling like a lonely outsider. These are human tragedies that didn’t have to
occur.
But wait, the cynic among us, will say. These children were
refugees from natural disasters or violence, so they already have undergone
much trauma. These self-serving apologists seem to forget the special bond
between children and their parents. Before the teen years, children’s lives
revolve around their parents, who protect them, shelter them, feed them, love
them, teach them basic values and provide them with models of human behavior.
There’s a lot that parents do to protect children from trauma. They can do
without so their children get what they need. They can turn a flight from
terror into an adventure. They can articulate a rosy vision of the wonderful
future in their new home. They can hug them and tell them they love them and
that everything is going to turn out fine.
War, famine, terror, flooding, food insecurity, a sudden
plunge into poverty—all children or young adults will handle any trauma better
when part of a loving (or even not so loving) family when they face these
evils.
But to do it without a parent? To be alone in a large cage
inside a windowless building, being herded around by ominous-looking strangers,
not knowing if and when you’ll ever see your family—the center of your
life—again, not knowing where they are? Why were you torn away from them? When
will you see them again? Why won’t they come get you? Don’t they love you
anymore?
No matter how horrible a child’s life has been, it gets
worse when it is taken from its family. Always.
The Trump Administration has tried an odious argument in
favor of parent-child separations, stating that in many cases, the adults
aren’t really the parents, but drug dealers who bought, borrowed or stole the
children to make it easier to get through border control. Oh, sure there are. Just
as there really was at least one woman on welfare who drove a late-model,
fully-loaded Cadillac in the late 1970s. And I’m sure that Willie Horton really
did commit a violent crime while on parole. But like Reagan’s welfare queen and
Bush I’s paroled violent offender, the child who is part of an elaborate ploy
to gain illegal admittance to the United States is a statistical anomaly. Studies
show that there has never been very much welfare fraud and that most cons on
parole say clean. And I’m quite certain that virtually all children who arrive
at the border with adults are coming with their parents or another close family
member, and not a drug dealer.
Reagan, Bush I and Trump all argued from anecdote and not
from fact. The fact is that the United States started doing the “extreme
vetting” Trump called for during the 2016 presidential campaign long before
Trump demanded that we build a wall along the Mexican border. The proof of it
is in the fact that immigrants—legal and otherwise—commit far fewer crimes per
capita than native-born Americans. Under Clinton, Bush II and Obama, we
developed a state apparatus which is quite good at keeping out bad actors. Breaking
up families has not helped fight drug smuggling. It has done nothing but
increase misery and assure that perhaps thousands of children will have
emotional problems later in life. There was never any reason to automatically
separate children from their parents at border control points.
Except of course, to assuage the base urge to be cruel to
the downtrodden.
The cruelty of creating thousands of future PTSD sufferers
is part of the greater cruelty of turning away refugees at the border. It
reminds me of the cruelty with which southern sheriffs enforced Jim Crow laws
or attacked Civil Rights protesters. It reminds me of the cruelty with which
German soldiers treated Jews, white masters treated African-American slaves,
and conquerors have treated the conquered throughout the ages. It’s as if the
perpetrator of pain took—and takes—a special sadistic pleasure in hurting
others.
In all cases, the underlying reason for the cruelty may have
been humanity’s essential bloodthirstiness, but the excuse was that these were
lesser people or not people at all—animals as Trump sometimes calls
non-European immigrants.
But human beings are not animals. Those who think that some
people are animals or no better than animals or want to treat them as animals
are despicable human beings. The real deplorables, to take a phrase from the
winner of the 2016 presidential popular vote.
American policy at home and abroad should not be to create
more victims of PSTD, but to reduce the circumstances that lead to this psychic
ailment.
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